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From pages 376-377 in I Am That, I noted the following two exchanges with interest. The first deals with how easy it is to get caught up in words and concepts; the second expands on this with the aphorism, 'everything is as it is,' in Nisargadatta's clear way.
( read excerpt here )
I find these passages helpful when thinking about dealing effectively with Z's belly pain. She has been really sore lately, apparently due to an allergy both to cow's milk protein and to soy milk protein, and she is prone to painful, loud crying fits that can last for an hour or more.
As I enter one of these episodes with her, I consciously try to relax my breathing, hold her very gently, and make gentle, if any, noises. When she builds her intensity, I may do the same, trying to find an opposing frequency to her crying that cancels it out. But no matter what I've done, I've noticed that as soon as I start thinking that she's sick or that something is wrong with her, it spontaneously creates tension and negative energy in me, which I surely must pass along to her.
Just last night, I noticed a slight change in the way I was looking at her when she was having a fit. I thought to myself, "She's fine -- this is her normal -- this is her reality at the moment -- there's nothing I can say or do to reverse what's happening, so I have to just go with it, ride the wave with her, give her as much support as I can, and hold on to her without judgement. No judgement; I don't think that she should be any way other than how she is."
Believing that, I've had some really fun times with her in the past 24 hours. We both seem to be doing a bit better with it.
( read excerpt here )
I find these passages helpful when thinking about dealing effectively with Z's belly pain. She has been really sore lately, apparently due to an allergy both to cow's milk protein and to soy milk protein, and she is prone to painful, loud crying fits that can last for an hour or more.
As I enter one of these episodes with her, I consciously try to relax my breathing, hold her very gently, and make gentle, if any, noises. When she builds her intensity, I may do the same, trying to find an opposing frequency to her crying that cancels it out. But no matter what I've done, I've noticed that as soon as I start thinking that she's sick or that something is wrong with her, it spontaneously creates tension and negative energy in me, which I surely must pass along to her.
Just last night, I noticed a slight change in the way I was looking at her when she was having a fit. I thought to myself, "She's fine -- this is her normal -- this is her reality at the moment -- there's nothing I can say or do to reverse what's happening, so I have to just go with it, ride the wave with her, give her as much support as I can, and hold on to her without judgement. No judgement; I don't think that she should be any way other than how she is."
Believing that, I've had some really fun times with her in the past 24 hours. We both seem to be doing a bit better with it.
